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Happy Friday!
\nI just wanted to jump into your mailbox to share my WHY with you.
\nWHY I am an expert when it comes to confidence in communication and WHY I designed my Rock That Mouth<\/a> program.<\/p>\n

I designed this fun, innovatie, and effective program\u00a0for 2 reasons:<\/p>\n

    \n
  1. To help you feel confident and comfortable speaking English, like I\u2019ve helped my private coaching clients over the past 30 years. I know what works, and I keep it fun and simple. Service with a smile, that\u2019s what I\u2019m all about!<\/li>\n
  2. To never have anyone feel the shame and embarrassment of making a pronunciation mistake or doubting what you say in English.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    I am all too familiar with this feeling. This is WHY I’m an expert. I’ve been on the other side so many times. Here’s one of those times:<\/p>\n

    When I was learning Dutch in 1991, after months of going to the bakery with my boyfriend and watching him order the bread,\u00a0I took a brave and bold decision – I decided to go to the bakery ALONE, without my Dutch boyfriend, for the very first time. I felt brave and confident. I was just ordering a loaf of bread. What could possibly go wrong?<\/p>\n

    It was so busy in the tiny artisan bakery. I had to take a number. There were 5 people waiting in front of me. As the numbers got higher, so did my temperature.<\/p>\n

    I started getting really nervous.
    \n3 people ahead of me.<\/p>\n

    Wait, what was I going to order again?
    \nI kept saying it to myself over and over again. I felt so confident when I left the house that I didn’t even write down what I wanted. I just repeated the phrase in my head over and over again. Hoping for the best. Really, really hoping.<\/p>\n

    2 people ahead of me.
    \nWas I saying the name right? Maybe I misunderstood the name? Maybe I changed the ending? Wait\u2026did it start with that letter? Was it ‘de’ or ‘het’?\u00a0I wasn\u2019t so sure anymore. Actually, I kind of remembered about 12% of what I wanted to say. At least, that’s what it felt like.<\/p>\n

    1 person ahead of me.
    \nI started sweating. Looking around to see if anyone in there looked friendly enough to order FOR me. I didn\u2019t dare to do it on my own. It was so hot, and so crowded, and you had to shout to get your order in, and I really wanted to go home. And never come back.<\/p>\n

    My turn.
    \nIt was my turn.
    \nI hesitated. Looked around. Took a deep breath, said \u2018It\u2019s now or never!\u2019 and, with a shaky voice, ordered the damn loaf of bread.<\/p>\n

    Silence.
    \nThey asked me to repeat the order.
    \nI wanted to go home.
    \nI said it again but this time, not so loudly, my lips shaking.<\/p>\n

    By the reactions of the people around me, I knew I had made a mistake.
    \nBut WHAT DID I DO WRONG?!?<\/p>\n

    I stood there so alone, in that tiny, crowded bakery, and so deeply ashamed. I felt the tears welling up in my eyes and I felt my cheeks burn brightly.
    \nApparently, I had ordered circumcised bread, instead of sliced bread. In Dutch, you change 1 letter, and the bread goes from sliced\u2026.to another kind of\u2026.slicing. Circumsised, to be precise.<\/p>\n

    I felt so stupid and small that day.
    \nI wanted to tell everyone that I was a highly intelligent, articulate woman.
    \nI also wanted to run away and never come back.
    \nI wanted to NEVER EAT CARBS AGAIN.<\/p>\n

    The people in the bakery were very kind about my horrible situation, though. They explained my mistake, and after my initial mortification, we all kind of giggled about it. I am Jewish, after all. So it kind of all makes sense (after you have had like 4 gin and tonics, I guess).<\/p>\n

    But I did go home that day with tiny, hidden tears.
    \nI wanted to throw that bread away.<\/p>\n

    I know what it\u2019s like to feel small and stupid in another language.
    \nI’ve made horrible mistakes in Hebrew, in Japanese, in French, in Spanish, and in Czech.<\/p>\n

    And I don\u2019t want you to EVER feel ashamed.<\/p>\n

    I designed Rock That Mouth<\/a> with love. With encouragement. With motivation. With jokes, expertise, tons of tips, and yes, I’ve even kept in my bloopers to show you that I mess up too, sometimes.
    \nBut it is magic.
    \nFor you and your mouth.<\/p>\n

    The doors to Rock That Mouth<\/a> close on Sunday night.
    \nThey will never open again.
    \nI hope to welcome you on a learning journey.<\/p>\n

    L’chaim!<\/p>\n

    Liefs,
    \nBuffi<\/p>\n

    PS: I went back to that bakery 3 months later, doubled my order, and even made a joke in Dutch! The baker remembered me and gave me a compliment on how far I had come. If I can do it, so can you!<\/p>\n

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