{"id":3174,"date":"2015-02-23T13:55:45","date_gmt":"2015-02-23T12:55:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/rockyourenglish.com\/?p=3174"},"modified":"2015-02-23T13:55:45","modified_gmt":"2015-02-23T12:55:45","slug":"idea-say-dont-say-anything","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buffiduberman.com\/nl\/idea-say-dont-say-anything\/","title":{"rendered":"I have no idea what to say so I don\u2019t say anything\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u2026.she said to me when we met for a coaching session recently. I love working with this woman. This woman is smart. Sharp. Well-educated. Has a job she loves. And she. Is. Terrified. To. Speak. English. (She is not alone.)<\/p>\n<p>We talked for a while about what was holding her back. Was she afraid of making a mistake? Did she not know the right words to express what she was thinking? Was she thinking too much about grammar and got stuck on the structures? Did she feel like an idiot? Turns out, it was actually a combination of all these factors. She built up all these fears to a size so huge in her head, it just took over her brain and there was no room left for logic or reason. I\u2019m not the most logical of people (I have been known to go to the supermarket in my pajamas\u2026more than once), but I do know how to get someone unstuck when this happens. So we worked together on developing strategies on how to tackle each fear, one by one. Baby steps. Each time you do something pro-active, you remove a brick in the wall that you\u2019ve built. The wall of resistance. Of shame. Of doubt. Of fear. You put that wall up; you can take it down again. Believe me, you can. And I can help you in that process. I have seen this happen in hundreds of coaching sessions in the 25 years I\u2019ve been doing this. Brick by brick, step by step, word by word, sentence by sentence. You can do it. She can do it. And she. Is. Doing. It!! I\u2019m thrilled at the steps she\u2019s taking. I love coaching!<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019d like to get coached, and would like to spend an hour with me, for free, to get a boost in your English communication skills, just\u00a0<strong>sign up for my free Webinar on March 3rd<\/strong>\u00a0at the top of\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.businessenglishcommunication.com\/\">www.businessenglishcommunication.com<\/a>. I\u2019d love to work with you!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Your Questions: Answered!\u00a0<\/strong><br \/>\n<em>\u201cWhy is \u2018video\u2019s\u2019 wrong? You marked it wrong on my paper!!\u201d<\/em><strong>\u00a0\u2013\u00a0<\/strong>from one of my lovely students.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, my sweet student (who shall remain anonymous), I did. \u201c<em>I love watching video\u2019s<\/em>\u201d is wrong. Always. Let me tell you why. If something is plural, just put an S on it (<em>if it follows the rules. Some words, like \u2018fish\u2019, \u2018sheep\u2019, and \u2018child\u2019 break these rules \u2013 1 fish, 2 fish. 1 sheep, 2 sheep. 1 child, 2 children. Isn\u2019t English fun that way?)<\/em>\u00a0So if you mean more than 1 video, then it\u2019s just \u2018videos\u2019. We use an apostrophe + s for 3 situations. One of them is to show possession. For example, my friend\u2019s car. However, it is also used as a substitute for \u2018is\u2019 or \u2018has\u2019. It\u2019s (it is) raining outside. He\u2019s (he has) got a meeting at 5 today. So, the next time you use an apostrophe + s, make sure you mean possession, a substitute for \u2018is\u2019, or a substitute for \u2018has\u2019. Hope that helps!<\/p>\n<p>Sending you all a super, magic-filled Monday.<br \/>\nEnjoy today, it will never come back again!<\/p>\n<p>Wit lof from your friend (and mine),<\/p>\n<p>buffi x<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u2026.she said to me when we met for a coaching session recently. 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