{"id":3867,"date":"2016-11-20T14:00:45","date_gmt":"2016-11-20T13:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.buffiduberman.com\/?p=3867"},"modified":"2016-11-20T14:00:45","modified_gmt":"2016-11-20T13:00:45","slug":"trying-get-back-saddle-hate-horse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buffiduberman.com\/nl\/trying-get-back-saddle-hate-horse\/","title":{"rendered":"Trying to get back in the saddle (when you hate the horse)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hi darling!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

First off – a huge word of thanks.<\/p>\n

THANKS.<\/p>\n

Wait….that’s not big enough.<\/p>\n

THANKS.<\/p>\n

Ah, that’s better.
\nSo many of you reached out to me after the last newsletter, I spent hours writing everyone back – I hope I didn’t miss anyone!<\/p>\n

I won’t say that it’s been an easy week – not at all.
\nAt first, I thought I would give Trump a chance, open my heart with love and an untarnished mind.
\n(Oh, do you know what ‘untarnished’ means? You should. It’s too easy for me to tell you- use\u00a0Dictionary.com\u00a0<\/a>for that! And you should have that app on your phone already, bij de weg..)<\/p>\n

But then I started getting the phone calls. And the mails. And the texts….<\/p>\n

3 different families who consist of same-sex couples and their children have asked me how to apply for refugee status in the Netherlands. Members of Trump’s transition team have said that homosexuality is a sin and that people who apply for a marriage licence should be jailed. They are afraid their marriages will be annulled and their children taken away from them.<\/p>\n

My friend has AIDS and now, under Obamacare, pays 300 dollars a month for his meds, which keep him alive. If Obamacare is repealed, which is part of our new Prez’s master plan, he will then have to pay 1400 dollars a moth. He will have to move in with his parents if he wants to stay alive. He is 53.<\/p>\n

Another friend works at Planned Parenthood. I volunteered \u00a0at the Bronx office myself for many years when I was in college. She is afraid that her clinic will close as Trump has clearly said he plans to overturn Roe vs Wade, which guarantees a woman’s right to choose. Her clinic is also the only clinic in the area that does breast cancer screenings. That’s gone too if the clinic is forced to close.<\/p>\n

Another friend of mine took his kids to the playground one Saturday morning and was greeted with spray-painted swastikas and “WHITE POWER\/TRUMP POWER’ written all over the brick wall.<\/p>\n

Another friend was stuck in traffic and someone in the car across from them shouted ‘YOU DIRTY ARAB TERRORIST! \u00a0TRUMP WANTS YOU TO LEAVE, AND SO DOES AMERICA!’<\/p>\n

There have been nearly 500 reported hate crimes since the election, and I’m sure there have been thousands that have not been reported.<\/p>\n

I’m trying hard to stay positive. I have spent a huge part of my career giving people the confidence they need to go on – to realise that they CAN do it – whether it’s giving that presentation, negating that complex contract, or networking at their next event. I’ve been trying hard to coach myself – I WILL get through this. We all will.<\/p>\n

I’m just going to have to jump back in the saddle. I hate the horse, though. I really do.<\/p>\n

Now I’m putting the blinders back on and diving deep into doing the work I love to do, for people I love. That gives me joy, such great joy, as I try so hard to hold tighter onto the reins of that goddamn horse.<\/p>\n

Giddy up!
\nXX Buffi<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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