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Happy 2019!<\/p>\n

How was your holiday?
\nI hope you are rested up and full of energy to make Big Things Happen. And I’m here to help you make that happen in English! I’m excited about new projects, events and clients for 2019, and I know it will be a year to remember already! <\/p>\n

A client told me about an embarrassing situation he experienced recently. He meant well but made a small mistake in English which threw him into the shame spiral pretty quickly. That’s a horrible place to be in. I wanted to share his story with you, in the hope that you can learn from it (and make good first impressions and stay out of the shame spiral forever!). <\/p>\n

You\u2019ve been working hard preparing to welcome your new British colleague. Your office is spotless, the mood is set, and he\u2019s finally arrived! You start out by asking him \u2018Do you like coffee?\u2019 He looks a bit puzzled, then says \u2018Um\u2026I guess so..?\u2019 and then you dash off to get him a fresh cup of coffee. You bring it to him with a big smile, and then he looks a bit puzzled. He says, gently, \u2018Oh, thanks\u2026but I don\u2019t really want any coffee right now. Would you happen to have some tea instead?\u2019 <\/p>\n

You feel like an idiot. What did you do wrong? <\/p>\n

You want to make a good first impression, and you only get one shot. However, you only know you\u2019ve made a mistake when it\u2019s too late. So what went wrong here? In English, there\u2019s a big difference between \u2018Would you like\u2019 and \u2018Do you like\u2019. When you want to offer something to someone, or extend an invitation, a polite way to do that is to ask \u2018Would you like\u2026?\u2019. For example \u2018Would you like some coffee?’ ‘Would you like some assistance with that?’ ‘Would you like to join us for lunch?’ <\/p>\n

This is what he should have said. But he didn\u2019t. He used \u2018Do you like\u2026?\u2019 instead. In English we use this for talking about what we like or don\u2019t like. Perhaps his new colleague likes coffee, beer, or chocolate, but it doesn\u2019t mean that he wants any of that at that moment. <\/p>\n

It might be just a small mistake but it had a big impact on my client. He felt ashamed and very stupid. As the first contact and the manager of the company, he really wanted to make a great first impression and he felt he didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019d like my professional tips and tricks on how to sail through meetings, networking, and negotiation sessions in English, I\u2019ve got the perfect masterclass for you! In my Taking Care of Business Event<\/a> we will be working hard and having fun, making your English go from functional to professional. I’ll share all the English insights I’ve been working on with my private CEO clients. We will work on all the subtleties and nuances of grammar, vocabulary and writing skills to raise the bar on your professional communication in English. This event is not for beginners (That\u2019s why I designed my Confidence Boo(s)tcamp<\/a>!) but for people who are already comfortable in English but know they can do better. <\/p>\n

My Early Bird Discount on my Taking Care of Business event ends on February 10.<\/strong> Space is limited, so grab your spot<\/a>!
\nIt\u2019s time to invest in yourself and your career. Let\u2019s make it happen in 2019!<\/p>\n

Sending you love (and a big cup of coffee!), Buffi <\/p>\n

\"\"
\nDon’t be this guy. Shame sucks.
\nThis will help you feel awesome in English! <\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Happy 2019! How was your holiday? I hope you are rested up and full of energy to make Big Things Happen. And I’m here to help you make that happen in English! I’m excited about new projects, events and clients for 2019, and I know it will be a year to remember already! 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