It’s not what you think. This is my favorite scale. I use it all the time in my workshops. Is your scale in balance? If you spend your precious energy, time, and attention focussing on fear, comparison, or shame…..you have no time, energy, or attention to focus on what really matters. Are you in balance? […]
Use this in your next meeting ‘Buffi, this really made such a difference – I wish I had known it sooner!’ – my French CEO client. What changed the game in her meetings? It was 3 simple words I shared with her. Acknowledge. Then answer. You see, when she was asked a question in a […]
WRITE IT RIGHT! There’s one thing you’re doing in your emails which most likely sets the wrong tone with your international clients. You can do better. I see it all the time, and it’s a rough translation of the typical Dutch way of ending an email. ‘I hope I have informed you enough.’ This […]
Learn from my client’s mistake… Recently a client of mine lost his job. Well, he didn’t really, but when he was talking about his work, he left out a word which made him unemployed. He said this: ‘I love my company. I worked there for 3 years.’ If you say ‘I worked’, this means that […]
It’s going to be so much fun! I’m honored to be one of the speakers (together with one of my sheroes, Cheryl Strayed!) at the Happinez Festival next weekend. I’ll be speaking on Saturday and Sunday morning, and you can see the schedule here. My talk will be in Dutch, and I’d love to see […]
And a childhood confession…. I spent a wonderful time living in a van in France this summer – you can see my adventures here. (If you have experience, tips, or expertise when it comes to buying a camper, please hit ‘reply’ and let me know – I’m thinking of buying one next year, I loved […]
Something special is coming! I’m so excited to share some VERY exciting news with you! Next week it’s my 57th birthday and I have a very special gift for you! 🥳 It’s fun. It’s fabulous. It’s totally festive…..and it’s something I’ve never, ever done before.🤩 But you can’t unwrap your gift just yet…..it will be […]
Here’s how to get out. Tekst: Hi sweet XXXX< Are you? Trapped in that trap? The trap you got yourself into in the first place? (With the help of that voice of your teacher, your parents, peers, colleagues, etc who said you couldn’t/shouldn’t do it/ you are/were a failure/fraud/poser/loser etc….) WHAT TRAP? 🧐 The trap […]
That will add color to your vocabulary! Here are some phrases to add some color to your Business English! Instead of saying ‘Let’s get started’, how about saying “Let’s get the ball rolling?” Or how about asking for a “ballpark figure” instead of a rough estimate next time? And if you apologise for getting “the […]
Start in your bathroom You’re a good person. Actually, you’re a great person. One who stands for good in the world. One who looks for kindness in others. One who treats strangers with respect. WAIT A MINUTE So….how about doing that for yourself? When you look in the mirror, do you greet that person with […]
