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Please don’t ever say this at work….

Here are some phrases that I don’t want you to use at work, because they can shrink your message, weaken your authority, and might have you come across as less secure or professional. I hear them being used way too often and they have become so many people’s ‘go to’ phrases, which undermines their credibility. […]

I hate her.

There’s this woman I hate.And if you know me, you know that ‘hate’ is not a word I use often. But I really hate this person.She shows up at the worst times.She’s never invited.She never wants to leave. Who is this horrible stranger?Well….she’s not a stranger at all. She’s me.Buffi.But…she’s Judge Buffi. The minute I […]

It’s not your fault

Hi, It’s not your fault.Not your fault that you might not have loved English at school. Maybe your teacher didn’t love their life.Maybe your teacher didn’t love their work.Maybe you were forced to learn in one way.With one approach.One method.Because that is how it was done at your school. Maybe you didn’t get grammar because […]

The secret to success just might be in your pants. Or your socks.

I know it’s a Friday but something very cool just happened, and I wanted you to know. I have a really concrete, mind-blowing tip to share with you. My client came into my office with the biggest smile on her face.For the first time in her life, she felt great about speaking in public. For […]

Did you miss the boat? Here’s how to sail smoothly into the future…

Dear, When I was sitting under a tree in Bali, sketching out ideas about how to connect the world via English communication confidence, I had no idea that 3 years later I’d be getting messages like these: Oscar’s kind message in the Communication Nation forum brought me to tears. This is exactly what I was […]

1+1=6

Hi, Look at this picture. It might look like two people talking, but it’s not.There are actually 6 conversations going on here. It’s me talking to Ed (in NY, how I love working there!)It’s Ed talking to me (I hope he feels the same.) It’s also ME talking to ME while I’m talking to Ed […]

I ask myself this question all the time. It helps.

Hey, When I find myself in a challenging situation, I ask myself a very simple question.But before I get to what that question is, let me give you an example of when I’ve found myself asking it. I don’t know how to read a map. I have absolutely zero sense of direction. I hate getting […]

Just in case you forgot…remember this.

Hey! There is always going to be someone richer than you.There is always going to be someone smarter than you.Thinner than you.Fitter than you.Younger and hotter than you.Living in a bigger house.Driving a better car.There is always going to be someone with more friends, orgasms, and flatscreens than you’ll ever have.Lots more.Always. But none of […]

Ready to learn, Ted Lasso style?

Hi,  You might be wondering what Ted Lasso has to do with learning English.Well, as you know, I love (LOVE!) having fun. And coaching.  (And Ted Lasso and Coach Beard love coaching too.) I also love having my clients feel safe, take risks, and enjoy the learning journey, every step of the way, even when […]

4 LAUNCH LESSONS

Hi there, I am now looking back at The Launch I Worked Towards for 3 Years. In 2019, on Bali I started sketching ideas about how to make my business scalable and serve (many, many) others as an English coach.  Those ideas started in a small notebook.  Then they became outlines, modules, frameworks, on my […]